February is behind us, Thank God and hallelujah !!!
It is not so bad tonight, (-6c/-9c w.c.) with light snow falling. Wednesday is still pegged to be the best day of the week coming. A positive temp, in the middle of negatives. That is a start.
This week, is sitting in the minuses, but next week, we will flirt with just above and just below zero. This comes from the weather channel 14 day outlook. Hopefully March will be the transitional month there is snow on the map, into March, so we will see how that plays out.
It has been a fabulous weekend. And this week will see all my guys reunited here in Montreal.
Last night there was lots of cake, cards, and candles, and medallions.
Nothing can compare with seeing your folks achieve milestones.
The First Year is the hardest. But he came, he saw, and he conquered. It doesn’t get any easier from this point but Two Years is the Silver Oval Chip, that once you get it, you keep it, and hopefully, when you reach ten years, that chip gets engraved and dipped in Gold for Ten Years. That’s a tradition here in the city, if you know who to go to to get that done.
Today I left early because I had to meet with one of my guys and set up for the meeting. We had our meeting before the meeting, and new folks in new jobs, and we sat a good group. In keeping with the series, we read Step Ten …
“Continued to take personal inventory, and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it.”
Once again, a few of us, when all was said and done tonight, scratched our heads, over things that were spoken. No two people work the program the same way. So you have to give them that.
When I realized that I wanted MORE, I had to find a sponsor that was MORE.
I had things I needed and he had some requirements for me as well.
- Sponsees call every day
- We meet once a week to chat
- We read the book together weekly
- We make one meeting a week together
- And they do daily inventories from the beginning
I can’t ask another human to do something that I am not doing myself. If I am going to talk the talk, I better walk the walk. I do that.
There are several types of 10 step inventories. From the small, to the exhaustive. From up to the minute, to the seasonal house cleaning. A daily inventory, only if brief and simple, in the beginning, is useful for everyone. It gives one a chance to look at ones day, in simple terms, and gives us something to talk about daily. So by the time we hit step ten, eventually, in the series, they are used to writing, and have it down as rote.
It has been proven that this model of recovery works, at least for my guys it does.
I learned this from women I respect and love, and if they can do it, I can do it too. It was just that, not many men, that I know, are committed to recovery as hard as I am or as the women are. It’s a stepped up game that is proactive, engaging, and workable.
Each of my guys are unique. Each has their own needs, so I have to work with each of them and set them up for their strengths, and to help their weaknesses into strengths. In turn, I can tell you that they push me to be a better man every day. They challenge me to grow.
Working with others, is the best job you can do in your sobriety.
Sobriety is a full time job, and working with others, just makes that job much better.
It is Transformational. It will change your life in ways, you could not even imagine.
It is going to be an exciting week ahead. And I am SOOOO ready for it.
More to come, stay tuned …