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Between the Extremes
The real question is whether we can learn anything from our experiences upon which we may grow and help others to grow in the likeness and image of God.
We know that if we rebel against doing that which is reasonably possible for us, then we will be penalized. And we will be equally penalized if we presume in ourselves a perfection that simply is not there.
Apparently, the course of relative humility and progress will have to lie somewhere between these extremes. In our slow progress away from rebellion, true perfection is doubtless several millennia away.
Do You Do what is reasonably possible ??? Getting sober, and clean, is an act that is reasonably possible. The Work is necessary, because without it, there is no reward.
If you do The Work as suggested, the possibilities are endless. Happy, Joyous and Free are your for the taking. For mere, reasonably possible, work.
By the By, I am reading Far and Away, a book I mentioned a few posts ago. And while I am reading this book, about an artist, who travels all over the world looking for artists and talking to them, he’s also on the pulse of change as it happens over twenty five years.
The book opened in Russia, and now we are in Beijing, China. The other night I asked myself, “Why am I reading this book?” And was rewarded by the answer that came to me, these are important stories, and there is something here to be learned along the way.
So I kept reading. And was rewarded with this line in the book:
…in speaking about Chairman Mao and the cultural revolution…
“It’s like an unhappy childhood. You cannot dwell on it all the time and impose it on others, but if you disown it completely, you will be an artificial or incomplete person.”
This thought follows a discussion between the writer and his friends who are artists and lived a life in China for generations, and the disconnect between the way the West sees and participates in the world and the Chinese, and the way they see and participate in the world themselves.
This thought related directly to the reading for tonight. Ask any normal, but what is normal, human being, how they see their lives and the past, many of them would say that they would like to forget the past, or rewrite it, or shed a better light on situations and stories that might be a bit savory and tart.
In recovery work, folks doing the work are going over the past, finding the nuances, and meanings of people, places and things. The Book tells us in the promises that:
We Will Not Regret the Past Nor Wish to Shut The Door On It.
The other day I saw an Oprah clip and she said:
Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could be any different
What happened, happened. What matters is What I do about it?
I believe that the universe conspires to help us, even when we don’t realize it. I also know that a little bit of us, that which makes us, exists in our soul. And that little bit that is in us, exists in great quantities in the cosmos.
With that said, even before we know it, or feel it, or think it, the universe is connected to us, all the time. Then we think, or we ponder or we pray, and before the words coalesce in our brains, the universe already knows.
Why are certain people in our lives ? I believe in synchronicity. And Serendipity.
“When people show you who they are the first time, believe them.”
I am learning, over and over, that not everybody wants to be your friend. And not everybody is going to like you. Recently I extended a hand to someone, and in the end, he turned around and told me to go fuck myself. Not in those words, but they were close.
I do what I do, because I have the ability to do what I do everyday, because of my husband. I spent my life trying to figure out what to do with my life, and this is where I ended up.
Everyday, is a work in progress. Some days are tougher than others, but for the most part, life is good. I have friends in my life, and people I work with on a daily basis.
Then, there are those people in my life, that I want in my life, for one reason or another. I try to be a good human being, and try and help my friends in whatever way I can.
Every human being has a story. No two stories are the same, and there is something to be learned from every human being in our lives. Oprah said that.
She was right.
Why did I call you ? Well, it was the right moment. When you ponder the thought that the universe conspires to help us, on the grand scheme of things, it was the universe, at some point in our lives, that we first connected.
What we do with that connection is what matters. You either invest or you don’t.
It’s your choice.
Today, I get to choose who I invest in and why. I have my reasons. If I trust my Higher Power, God, then I try and do the right thing, when the moment hits me.
Sometimes that is sitting outside a church and dialing your number, because I need to hear your voice, and hoping on the other end, I will do the same for you.
Friends are few, we know.
Family is not all that it’s cracked up to be.
Fortunately, in this life, when family FAILS, we get to CHOOSE, who we want as family. And sometimes having the CHOICE is better than anything we got from the dealership.
At some point, in this life, we get to the point that we say:
I Have Had ENOUGH of YOU…
Captain Kirk said that …
Now, you get your friends, the people you trust. We are all here for a greater purpose. And sometimes we don’t need to know why, we accept it as what we need to do.
The reading above speaks about perfection, and the fact that perfection is unattainable, because we are human, and the warning we get, if we think we are perfect, or have found perfection.
God is perfect. And I surely am not God.
As long as I remember that, I am good to go.
Goodnight Boo …