All we have is this one life, and in the words of the Queen of Ireland …
This is the Big Show. There is no Dress Rehearsal. This is it …
We only get one shot at this life.
We are born, we grow up, are educated in whatever way that education comes, and we are turned loose on the world to make our marks, to get good jobs, have families, and later, children, and hopefully we make some money to live on, and also, to have a little to retire with as well.
We go into the world with our certain world views on ethics and work habits. The world is an unpredictable place, and nothing is ever a given.
Especially if you are addicted to one thing or another …
There is a certain millennial of my acquaintance. He is young and has a good job. But at age twenty-six, all he knows about life, is pounding himself into the ground, working like a madman, trying to make as much money as he can, so by the time he is thirty-five, he will have made enough money to retire on a yacht somewhere, other than in Montreal.
- He overcompensates in the hopes that he is recognized as a hard worker, therefore, indispensable, and a secure employee.
- He believes that overcompensation will get him the Golden Ticket and a Million dollars by age thirty-five.
- He does not work nine to five .. but eight to seven-thirty. He does not see the world as his workmates do. He is focused on one point in time, “retirement at thirty-five.”
But as it went, he mentioned, in passing, that he was not feeling well, and had to see a specialist for a certain medical problem.
You could say that “A Yellow Sign” went up in front of him.
I just wonder, how many YELLOW SIGNS will have to go up, in front of him, hopefully keeping him from ever encountering a RED SIGN of Major Problems ???
We are worried that he is working himself into sickness. Because we know how he sees his job and the end point he desires, and wild horses will not keep him from victory.
Yes, we need a job, something to do, and money in the bank, BUT AT WHAT COST ???
I know, I have friends who are older than me, who have jobs. Some of them enjoy what they do, and work is enjoyable and fruitful. Others, work nine to five, stuck in a cubicle, never seeing the sun at all. They ride a bus for an hour to get into their city centers, they get up in the dark, go to work in the dark, and at the end of the day, they come home in the dark.
All this, in order to secure employment and some cash, but not much.
Some of us were educated in specific studies, that, in the end, did NOT translate into long-lasting, fruitful careers, and we were stuck with something we’d rather not do, but are forced into because of the economy or the lack of really good work opportunities, in our respective fields of study.
I’ve mentioned, in past entries, the concept of the DO OVER, we get when we get clean and sober. The world OUT THERE, does not know of this concept. Most men and women go into the world and they get stuck, in environments that might not be healthy or good for them, but they persist, because it is all they could get.
They might never ponder Re-Orientation.
How many of us go into life and get that really good job, from the get go ? And how many people, out there, get stuck in a life of ambiguity, having to settle for a barista job in a coffee shop, biding ones time, until that Parliament Hill Job opens up ???
Been here, seen it, recently celebrated the emergence out of ambiguity.
But my young millennial friend works with someone I know, who is concerned that our young man is going to kill himself for an ideal, that might not ever happen, because there are no givens in this life.
There is respect in serious work ethics. That young people go out into the world and find their place, in a good job, that PAYS. But At What Cost to their lives ?
I spoke tonight about this topic with a friend, who, like I said, is concerned.
He has, in the past, tried to talk to our young man, to no avail. Our young man is not interested in listening to reason or direction.
How do we help people when we see an opportunity to help them? How many people, really want our advice when it comes to wealth and power? Single focus idealism is good to a certain degree, I just don’t know many people, who came INTO money, coming from without.
I don’t know many successful money spinners that did not pay their dues, one way or another, or came from money so they really did not have to work very hard to get theirs.
In my life, I was a tornado spinning on a collision course with destiny. My aptitude to work hard, honestly, and with integrity was tossed into the trash when my alcoholism took over.
I did not know any better, nor did I really care, either way, where drugs and alcohol were concerned.
God had to throw a Very Big RED Stop Sign in front of me to STOP my forward momentum.
I needed a serious Re-Orientation. AIDS did that for me.
We don’t wish terrible circumstances to befall anyone we know, so that they Re-Orient.
But I wonder, if I could give you sickness for some time, or trade my medicine cabinet for yours, would YOU STOP and take stock and Re-Orient your life, in order to make a change that might really benefit you in the long run ?
God took me out of the world of dating, men and sex. Once and for all. Because that’s what my life turned into in the end.
It was good that I did have a job that paid, a roof over my head and a doctor and minimal drugs, when they counted, when I needed them. But that only lasted so long.
My Re-Orientation was not complete. And would not be complete until I moved to Montreal in 2002. In the end it was not until I hit my late forties that the process came to total fruition.
The possibility that we go into the world, and GET that really good job, that we ENJOY doing, beyond the simple paycheck to make ends meet are slim.
We know many people who are stuck, working jobs they hate and have no passion, because it is all they could get, and are doomed to sit in a cubicle forever …
The koan of “Find your passion, DO IT, money will FOLLOW” is a fallacy.
What a rude awakening that was.
I may not make money doing what I do today. Because I don’t.
But at this stage of my life, I am in a life situation where, I am provided for handsomely. Which frees me to do whatever I want, on a daily basis, because I want to, and not because I have to …
I’ve spent the past fifteen years in University, In the rooms of recovery, listening to people talk about their lives, and just HOW they worked out their Do Over’s.
I have hundreds of books in my library here at home that I have actually READ.
I have, almost fifty years of life experience to bank on and talk about.
I see people, out there, spinning aimlessly, without direction or thoughts to their futures beyond punching a clock, taking home a pittance, doing work they don’t enjoy.
I told my friend tonight what happened to me, in order for God to get me to Re-Orient.
That covenant between God and myself was still in action. A promise was made, long ago, and God needed my attention.
Failure was NOT an option.
Every man and woman out there, has a duty to serve their creator, whomever that creator is. We are duty bound to go into the world and make a difference, with honor and integrity.
And when we get the chance, we try to help our fellows, do the right thing, for the right reasons, and the right intentions.
What would it take for you to consider what you do for a living ?
- Do you enjoy your job?
- Do you make good money, Yes or No ?
- Are you killing yourself trying to work yourself to death all for a paycheck ?
- Is what you do Fulfilling to your spirit, Yes or No ?
- If you had the opportunity to Re-Orient, would you ?
- And if you could, what would you do with the rest of your earning capacity ?
- What goals do you have for your future prosperity ? Are they attainable or not ?
- And if they aren’t, how CAN you get there from here ?
Just a few question that came up in our discussion tonight.
You don’t have to settle for just punching a clock and killing yourself in order to retire in your thirties with all the money in the world, you believe you will make between now and then.
Idealistic Millennial Millionaire’s Disease is FATAL …
I don’t personally know any millionaires.
Most of my friends are just getting by, some are miserable, some are not. But it is all in the way you see the world, and how you approach personal success.