Monday: Resentment And its Spiritual Solution

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There may come a time, in your life, in your Sober Life, that you reach a tipping point. A moment of Do or Die, or more aptly, Do or Drink … A moment where the resentments of the past, are about to rush over you like a BIG wave on the beach.

That time may come for you, as it came to me, not so long ago.

Tonight we read the Resentment Passage from the Big Book, as it tells us that:

Resentment is the number ONE offender, and if not dealt with accordingly, We Will Drink Again…

For many years, when I worked my steps, I had resentments that ended up on the Never list for my Step Nine Amends. That anger of my idealistic melancholic hopes that “The Past could have been any different, thereby giving me the end I wanted, instead of the end that I got.

There was not ONE sober member, when it was needed so badly, not one member who gave me a solution to my anger. Oh, they recognized my anger, then told me to go, and deal with that on my own, leaving me to my own devices.

My solution, the Very Spiritual Solution came from my spiritual advisers.

The format of the inventory I needed to work came from them, and them alone.

I learned to Pray a Forgiveness Prayer, for those who had harmed me so badly. Praying to forgive them of pain, knowing that my prayer was not one of absolution, but in the end, of Release.

There may come a time when resentments that end up on your amends list, that fall in the Never Column. There are three columns. Now, Later, and Never.

For the whole of my sobriety I sat on anger and fear. I sat in sick anger that invaded my spirit, and as the book tells us, that sickness, keeping us from the Sunlight of the Spirit.

I heard it said tonight, that when we are in that place, we are walking around the world, with an open umbrella, shading ourselves from the Sunlight of the Spirit, intentionally.

We have to let go the expectation that the Past could have been any Different.

The example I was given, was Corrie Ten Boom, a survivor of the Holocaust. After the war, that she survived, she later met a man who stopped her on the street in Berlin.

He said Corrie, Don’t you know who I am ? Yes, she did. Before her stood one of the guards that killed her family, in front of her, and terrorized her in the camps.

He asked her for forgiveness … And on that pass, she said Absolutely Not.

In time, she came to the Spiritual Battle Ground, where she learned about Faith, God, The Cross of Crucifixion, Jesus, and of Forgiveness.

She found forgiveness for that man.

When her story came to me, via my spiritual director, my very banal resentments and anger, paled in comparison to this very tragic story of suffering and death. I thought out loud that I could not compare my pain, to that pain of someone who survived the death camps.

I had to let go my pie in the sky expectations of the past, and get to the forgiveness prayer, for me, for them, to be free, finally, once in for all. Because I needed to move on with my life, and I truly needed to shut the door on this past story, forever.

I came to this point. I had a spiritual solution that worked.

I came to know that in the end, I COULD LET GO that old story and never have to tell it again, so long as I live…

I am Free …

We are imperfect humans, and as soon as we recognize that, within the frame work of the Spirituality of Imperfection, and we make that crucial decision to LIVE in the Spiritual Solution, we begin to live Freely, Humbly with Gratitude and Love.

The Solution to Sober Problems can be found in Spiritual Principles.

The Spirituality of Imperfection is a good place to start.

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