The world will witness Prince Harry marry his sweetheart Meghan on Saturday, in St. Georges Chapel in Windsor Castle. So much has changed for the young prince, Brother to Prince William, and uncle to Prince George, Princess Charlotte and Prince Louis.
I remember, long ago, the image of a much younger Harry, his brother William, Father Prince Charles, and Earl Spencer, on September 6, 1997, walking behind his mother’s funeral cortege, in front of the whole world.
It might not have been the best choice to have the boys walk that walk, but, the wisdom of the day, dictated that action. Harry later said, that it was the hardest thing he ever had to do in his life, save, fight in a war …
I remember, the night Diana died. Where I was, what I did, and the days that followed. I remember the day of the funeral, watching with the rest of the world, that had fallen into a sadness never seen before, in my lifetime.
A few days later, a funeral mass was held in Miami, at one of the Anglican Cathedrals in downtown Miami. For that event, I sat down and penned letters to William and Harry. letters about my experience, watching their mother marry. I had a tv in the car, that day as I went to work with my father, and watching the wedding sitting in his office.
And for the rest of my life, being witness to a force of nature like the world had never seen before. I told them many things, many things that escape my memory today, seeing I wrote those letters in a fog of mourning.
I always wonder if William and Harry, received letters like mine after the funeral when all the books of remembrance were carried to London from all corners of the world.
That is one question I have always asked of the universe, whether they read those letters or are they just collecting dust in some storage location. I would have been honored had they done so, but seeing how difficult life had become for both boys, then, I imagine that any reminder of that sadness was quietly stored away for posterity.
My lifetime has been full of Royal Wonder. I loved Diana, and everything that she represented to me, primarily then, Living with AIDS, and knowing how much she cared for people like me, gave me a sense of hope that I did not find in many places then.
Diana loved her boys, William and Harry, very much.
I remember one poignant memories, The Royal Yacht was berthed behind the RCI Building on Port Miami, and Diana was to meet the boys for the first time in as many weeks aboard. We all know of that image of Diana greeting the boys.
I’ve witnessed William and Harry grow up and become men. Both William and Harry have grown into fine young men, with promising futures. I think we can all agree, Harry did not have such an easy time of it, during younger incarnations of himself.
I imagine how hard life must have been for both William and Harry.
Diana hated the press, and did her best to shield her sons from the glare of photographers and paparazzi. Sometimes she succeeded, other times she utterly failed. William and Harry learned a valuable lesson about the press throughout their lives, and both William and Harry, have kept the press at bay for the most part.
Now all the cameras of the world will be focused on Windsor Castle this weekend. The little town of Windsor has been inundated with spectators and press. I would think that rankles Harry to no end. But I am sure he will be well protected from prying eyes, while he marries his sweetheart Megan.
We should all be proud of Harry. The final young royal son to be married in our lifetime. We have witnessed Royalty at its best in watching Diana become a woman, AND a Royal, be married in St. Paul’s, seeing her have her children, and being blessed to see William and Harry grow up into fine young men.
I imagine Diana is looking down on them tonight, and she smiles.
Imagine what it would have meant to William and Harry to have their mother present for both their weddings and child births. Alas, I am sure Harry will honor his mother in some special way on Saturday. I’m sure she is not far from his mind and heart, during this very difficult time for Meghan.
Let us remember Diana, in the lives of her son Harry this weekend and be glad for him. Harry has walked a long road to redemption and honor. And we should honor his commitment to becoming the best man he knows how to be. He intimated as much during interviews during the Invictus games here in Toronto.
Well done Harry. Welcome to Married life. Now life REALLY gets REAL.
Once you utter those vows, the real responsibility begins to your wife.
People don’t necessarily use an engagement period as homework for the real thing, but I had that experience myself. I warned Stephan on the day he married my niece Melissa, that they might have had 11 young years together, before their nuptials, but now the rubber meets the road.
So will it be for Harry and Meghan.
Let us all wish them the best.
Hip Hip Hooray Harry and Meghan.