Sobriety tells us that one thing will change, when we come in. Sobriety says that the only thing that will change is EVERYTHING.
I know, for me, that it was only time that would turn my life into what it is today. Back then, telling someone to buckle up and ride the coaster until it stops, people usually got it.
Now, in today’s I-Phone world of I want it NOW, and quite possibly, could you give that to me, YESTERDAY ? That’s what we deal with today.
Telling my friends to buckle up and ride the coaster does not translate very well, in the climate where, we can get it NOW, at just a few clicks.
I have really great friends. People who love me for me, and I love them for them.
Today, people are kind to me, just because. I put myself out there, here, and because of that, the universe gave me a gift of kindness from a perfect stranger, who read something I wrote here.
While I was writing the post that appears below this one, for the kindness on its way to me tomorrow, I got two phone calls.
A few months ago, I met a young man, fresh and raw. He was days sober. And he was at one of my home group meetings.
That night, he came into an empty room, as I was sitting there, alone with him. He got down on his knees and prayed the OH GOD Prayer …
Those words are simple … OH GOD I NEED THE PROMISES NOW.
I did not know this young man. But I was present for the prayer. That night a relationship began, and still goes on today. He had lost his girl friend because of his using. He just lost a job that was his life, because the mall that housed his business, raised the rent to a level that they could not possibly afford. Overnight, they moved out and the business never recovered.
With days of sobriety under his belt, I said a few words to him.
Buckle up and ride the coaster until it stops.
What he did have that many don’t, was someone to ride the coaster with him, until the ride stopped.
The first phone call I got this afternoon, was from that same young man. At 6 months and a little longer, he had applied for a job, out of province. That recovery business, hired him on the spot. He called to tell me he was moving away in a few days time.
The conversation continued. And he said this, after while: I really appreciate your support, and I value your friendship, and I commented to him that in the beginning it was he who opened the door to our friendship, and that it would be up to him to shut it.
He then said:
What door, there is no door, I ripped it from the hinges.
Now I will be traveling to Nova Scotia to visit him once he gets settled and finds a good place to live where he can host guests.
He rode the coaster, good and bad, tough and easy. Finally the coaster has pulled into the station. Tonight, we got off the ride together.
Really grateful for people in my life. And for the kindness of strangers.
The second phone call was from another good friend who only had good things to say to me about his life. We’ve been friends since the very first meeting he walked into. I’ve been present for both of these men, 100%.
Sobriety is not easy. but when grace comes and settles in, life gets really good, and the only thing I can say is this …
If it were not for the rooms, I would not have everything that I have.
It came on God’s time, not mine.
And I am not God.