Turning Pages: Stories, Successes, and Mistakes


What are we without our stories? Stories about ourselves, our friends, and those who are not really our friends. I believe strongly, that the only way we learn how to do things, how to learn things, and how to teach things, is to watch how others do those very same things themselves.

In my life, I have battled in Theodore’s Arena. But for the most part, I may be guilty of sitting in the stands and sharing my commentary of other fighters in the arena in that moment.

At this stage of the game, I own my actions and my decisions. I’ve got serious sober time under my belt, and have reached the ripe age of fifty. I can talk all I want to talk, provided, I have some knowledge of the subject I am talking about.

I’ve long contended that the way I stay sober, one day at a time, is to watch my peers work to stay sober themselves. And over the time I have worked on my own sobriety, I collect the stories of those around me and I share them here with you.

A man I know, who is in the arena right now, does not want to know me, nor does he listen to anything I say to him. And my elder friends tell me to stop wasting time on him because there are plenty of others who want to hear what I have to say.

But as social media goes, that man does not listen to me in real life, but he reads my blog, Go Figure … I wrote about him anonymously. Did not mention his name, but upon reading the words I wrote, he went back into community and dragged my name and my reputation through the mud.

Several others took to social media to warn others getting sober in Montreal not to attend meetings with me, and to stay away from me and not talk around me because they too will become targets of my story telling.

Fuck Me Right ?

I do know a little about getting sober, because I have watched countless men and women walk around in the dark, drinking, using and fucking up their lives continually over years and years. Meanwhile I sit in meeting and say the same things, give the same advice, offer the same help to everyone.

In order to find community as The Spirituality of Imperfections states, we need to find other story tellers. We need to seek, and within that seek, we may be found by others. In giving it is that we receive. In sharing with others we get in return.

Which is the way I roll. I share my stories with you about me, and I also share stories about others, to tell you what is working and what is not working. I see mistakes and I record them for posterity. Other people in the arena need to know where the pitfalls are, where the ditches are, and where the other warriors are in relation to themselves.

I don’t give advice that I have not taken and/or worked out myself. I have no right to give advice to others, if I know that advice did not work for me.

I stay sober, by watching my friends make mistakes.

I know all the excuses people make. I know what little work they will do to get sober. All I have to do is ask one question of a potential sober encounter …

I give them my phone number and I say – Call Me Every Day !!!

That one command sends people running for the hills screaming.

There you have it. They will come to the meeting and wrestle with their angels, but damn your request for someone to use their phone as it was intended to be used.

I changed tack. I moved the space. I shut down the old site. I opened this one.

Because this is my space. A space that I choose what to do with and to what end.

People who do not learn from history, are doomed to repeat it. It goes just the same, that people who do not learn from their mistakes, are doomed to repeat them, over and over.

I have the knack to be able to point out mistakes and say, “Hey, do you see this, this mistake you keep making ? Stop it already.”

Life does not have to be so difficult if you follow certain spiritual principles.

I, at least, have read the books, and several of my friends have read the books.

The advice is the same to everyone.

Read The Book.

I wrote this piece of advice to a complete stranger, a young lady, who is in Nepal, the other day. It changed her life. Just the effort to stop for a moment and share some advice.

Hello. I’ve been following for a while now. Not many people would take that “Leap” into the unknown and just go with it. Many do not have the ability nor financial means to do what you are doing either, because in many places, we are taught that the 9 to 5 grind is THE way of life, and there can be no other. Men and Women like you who say NAY to that and go do that have courage of conviction.

Do Not Leave Prematurely, that place you are in right now, before you get the puzzle pieces you need to move forwards. Have painful conversations, ask tough questions, Live, Live, Live, life is a banquet and most poor suckers are starving. You are in an amazing part of the world. See it all. If if you need to see MORE, then see more. You said this is your time to sort yourself out. How long does that take, well, it depends on you doesn’t it ? Sorting ourselves out can take a lifetime. I encourage you to immerse yourself in every little thing, person, experience, food, spirituality, hope, belief.

I know what it feels like to make that leap. Been there, done that too.

Find the life of your dreams, and if you stay where you are, if you find you cannot go back, you will find a way to survive. We don’t necessarily have to go BACK. We can, go forwards too. Have you thought about that ? The world is a big place. And there might be one special place that speaks to your heart and your soul. Only you would know that. Seek it.

You never know where you will meet someone who needed to hear what you had to say to them, and know, that you did, change a life for the better.